“Why do most people assume that all nonmonogamous relationships are destined to fail? Because we only hear about the ones that do. If a three-way or an affair has played a factor in a divorce or breakup, we hear all about it. But we rarely hear from happy couples who aren’t monogamous, because they don’t want to be perceived as dangerous sex maniacs who are destined to divorce.
This state of affairs—couples who experimented with nonmonogamy and wound up divorced won’t shut up, while couples who experimented with nonmonogamy and are still together won’t speak up—allows smug and insecure monogamists to run around insisting that there’s no such thing as happy, stable monogamish couples.
‘You know lots of couples who have had three-ways and flings who aren’t divorced,’ I told the skeptics a few weeks ago, ‘you just don’t know you know them.'”
As many successes as we’ve had, we do have a tendency to bitch about the failures. It’s always good to read about the good bits!